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5 Lessons Nomadic Travel Taught Me About How to Spend My Energy

One year ago, my wife Candace and I started traveling the world as nomads, with just a carry-on and a small backpack each. It'd been both a dream and fear of mine for a while. I dreamt of the freedom — an opportunity of a lifetime to create an epic adventure

5 Lessons Nomadic Travel Taught Me About How to Spend My Energy

Coming Home to My Roots: A Journey in Loving the Parts of Me I'd Once Rejected

For a long time, I rejected my roots. I come from a family of immigrants. 23andMe says I’m 99% Chinese — the last 1% could be anything. My family owns the longest-running Chinese medicine and herb store in San Francisco Chinatown. It turns 50 this year. When I was young,

Coming Home to My Roots: A Journey in Loving the Parts of Me I'd Once Rejected

Letting The Gift of Presence Be Enough

Last Wednesday evening, I witnessed my grandma Ma Ma, 95, take her last breath. A dozen of us — my family and my aunts, uncles, and cousins — gathered around her bedside at my parents’ house, feeling the heavy solemness in our shared silence. Amidst the sadness, I knew I was lucky

Letting The Gift of Presence Be Enough

What 350+ Conversations in Uber and Lyft Rides Taught Me About Intimacy

For two years, I played a game to practice the art and science of human connection in every Lyft or Uber ride I took — 350+ rides in total. Every ride, I'd hop into the front seat and make it my goal to get into as deep of a life conversation

What 350+ Conversations in Uber and Lyft Rides Taught Me About Intimacy

I'm Quitting Engineering and Taking My Next Big Leap

The conversation that would change the trajectory of my life's work happened just before the pandemic hit. My dear friend Elenna and I were celebrating at E&O Kitchen and Bar in downtown San Francisco — we had just finished running a workshop for leaders in tech on reprogramming beliefs.

I'm Quitting Engineering and Taking My Next Big Leap

How Kilimanjaro Dared Me to Dream Bigger

At 18,000 feet, the nausea and loss of appetite starting kicking in, compounding the dreaded headache that I was already feeling. My body felt perennially out of breath with every small step. At that altitude, the oxygen levels had dropped to 50% of what was available at sea level,

How Kilimanjaro Dared Me to Dream Bigger

Following the Call

Tomorrow, I'll be flying to Tanzania to scale Kilimanjaro. It'll be the most epic and physically challenging feat that I've ever attempted. When I decided to do this trip a few weeks ago, I didn't know why I was doing it. I've never found the deserty photos of Kilimanjaro particularly

Following the Call

Making Your Way Toward More Acceptance and Inner Peace

Dear Friend, I know what it’s like to be feeling a deep sense of inner turmoil inside, as if there’s a battle being waged inside of you that you don't know how to stop. I know what it’s like to have a part of you longing for

Making Your Way Toward More Acceptance and Inner Peace

How We Consciously Designed Our Relationship at Our Two-Week Intimacy Retreat

“The stake for our retreat is to lovingly create clarity in how we intertwine our lives,” I read aloud. The backbone of any retreat was the stake — the central purpose that we were gathering for. And we’d just settled on one that resonated with both of us.

How We Consciously Designed Our Relationship at Our Two-Week Intimacy Retreat

How I Honored My Own Integrity and Called Off My Wedding

“I don't want to get married on this trip unless we're 100% aligned and clear on what marriage means to us, and we're not aligned right now,” I said to Candace. I felt nervous, sitting on the hammock chair of our San Francisco apartment. This would be one of the

How I Honored My Own Integrity and Called Off My Wedding